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Dear Madame Joy,
Ever since we were little girls my sister has always been the pretty one and I have been the one with the nice disposition. Our relationship has always been great. She never threw it in my face that she was prettier. The problem is everyone else. I am so fed up of people making me feel like I am the ugly duckling. All the attention goes to my sister and I have grown up feeling left out.
Men flock to her like bees to honey. We have double dated on occasions and it’s happened that on one of these dates, my date just kept staring at and talking to my sister, basically ignoring me.
Madame, I am not really jealous of my sister but I also want to be able to enjoy my life and not feel like I am not worthy of all the attention she gets. She’s always telling me that I am beautiful and I should not take our family comments to heart. I do try but it still bothers me. Madame Joy, how do i stop letting my family’s comments drag me down?
Ugly Betty
Dear Ugly Betty
Thank you!
Miss Betty, let’s be honest, start by saying YES!!! Yes, you are!!! Yes, you are jealous of your sister. I don’t blame you, I just want you to admit it to yourself.
You cannot let others determine your value. Yes, the comments hurts but if you don’t value yourself, why would anybody else value you. Remember, nobody can beat you at being you. Ugly is a state of mind. There are lots of what our society deems to be, beautiful people out there. Yet these same people don’t consider themselves to be beautiful.
Considering that you grew up with this young lady and you know the paparazzi comes where ever she goes. Why the hell would you go on a double date with her? Cut out that double dating nonsense. Work on your issue before you bring others into it. Get comfortable with you and everything else will fall in line. Once you’re happy with you, people can say whatever the hell they want and guess what? It won’t bother you, just smile and say thank you. Someone looking for what you offer will find you.
Follow these simple steps and you too will attain happiness and clarity.
p.s: Don’t be fooled, she may not say it, she may not rub it in your face but I’m pretty damn sure she gets off on the fact that everybody thinks she’s beautiful. Just saying!
Thank you for selecting us as your emotional crisis advisor. We are here for you!
Madame Joy
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Ever notice, it usually the beautiful people that tells you that crap that beauty comes from within?