Dear Madame Joy,

I am having a problem with one of my friends. We have been tight since kindergarten but we seem to be drifting apart now. The problem is that my fiend is one of those people you tend hear before you see. It has always been a source of embarrassment for me and it’s really bothering me now. We’ve are both finished university and working in our respective fields. I am very happy with my job and have done everything in my power to keep her away from my workplace. My friend seems to always cause drama regardless of where we go. It could be a restaurant, a club or just walking down the street. When I try to talk to her about it, she tells me that I have become a snob, I don’t know how to have fun anymore and that I think I’m better than her. Madame Joy, I am not a snob but I know the direction I want my life to go and that kind of behavior is just not part of my plan. How do I get her to understand that I am not snubbing her but just want something better for me.

My Climb

 

Dear My Climb!

In order to attain my masters in psychobabble, I have taken many a psychology courses. I remember in one particular where the teacher said “ You dress like the people you want to be”. Now the truth is dem people might not want to accept you because you is young money and they old money but dat is dey problem and dat is a story for another time eh!

Dat teacher also say that the bus is never late “You are”…  Think about it. Yeah, I was late for class and I tell she de bus was late and she make it seem like it was my fault. humphh!!!

I will thief some words from Mr Steve Harvey’s daddy. “Everybody who comes with you, can’t go with you.” Repeat… “Everybody who comes with you, can’t go with you.”

You talk to her and she call you a snob, so what you trying to get her to understand? she done tell you what she understand. Why allyuh people always trying to fix other people? Yuh cyah fix chuppid!!! She have to realize that she chuppid on she own.  Every once in a while that synapse does fire and hit the right spot and people get it.  So it still have hope fuh she.
There is absolutely no way you can take this person with you on your journey. Her behavior is not conducive to the trajectory that you have perpetuated for your life journey. I know right, that sound real good boy!!!. Yuh need to drop she! If she not adding she subtracting. If it is not a symbiotic relationship, then it is parasitic. Oh lord I on a role. We all have our path, it should not include dem energy suckers. They will suck your dreams out of you because they don’t have any or because they do scared to follow theirs and don’t want you to succeed.

A verse from Mary J Blige “Just fine” I go sing you out:

I aint gon’ let nothing get in my way
(I ain’t gone let nobody bring me down, no, no, no)
No matter what nobody has to say
(No way, no way, no way)
I ain’t gon’ let nothing get in my way
No matter what nobody has to say

Feels so good, when you’re doing all the things that you want to do
Get the best out of life, treat yourself to something new
It’s a really good thing to say
That I won’t change my life, my life’s just fine

p.s.Another Steve Harvey daddyism: Everybody by your side ain’t on your side

Thank you for selecting us as your emotional crisis advisor. We are here for you!

Madame  Joy

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