Dear Madam Joy
I’ve been seeing this guy for 3 years. My friends say that he’s a player but I don’t believe them. I think they are just jealous and want what we have. While I do admit he has a lot of female friends, most of these women are lesbians.
Two weeks ago a woman showed up at my workplace claiming to be his wife. When I asked him about it he said she was mad at him for something and that she was a lesbian and I should not pay attention to her. One night I even received a call from a woman claiming she was the mother of his child.
Last weekend, my friends and I went downtown and who do I see walking arm in arm towards us but my boyfriend and one of his “lesbian” friends. When he saw us, he nodded and he just kept walking. The next time I saw him he said the woman was just a friend and he did not want to embarrass me in front my friends, so he just kept walking.
Madame Joy, it seems to me that he playing me for a fool. I’ve been in love with this man since the first time I saw him. How do I say goodbye and move on with my life?
Good bye to yesterday
Dear Good bye to yesterday
Thank You!
No wait, wait, hold on. Let me get this straight, You THINK he’s playing you? You saw him walking arm in arm with another woman and you actually entertained a conversation with him long enough to find out she was another lesbian?
You know what? You are probably right. I mean it is entirely possible that all his female friends are lesbians. They must all be a member of a coven and he’s the supreme leader. He of course married your visitor to give her papers. As for the lady with the child. He was simply a sperm donor and she’s trying to milk him for money.
Ok, let’s see, how do we explain the walk downtown? Oh I know! She fell and she couldn’t get up. He was simply being a good Samaritan by supporting her as she walked.
Women, women, women!!! To quote Giles from Buffy the Vampire Slayer, “There are two things that I don’t believe in: coincidence and leprechauns”. While you should be very wary of the chattering of friends, you should also use your damn brain. You have it for a reason. There is no way in hell there can be that many coincidences. It is statistically impossible that all of these women are lesbians. If yuh could use maths to prove it, then oh gawd woman, slap yuhself awake!
How do you say goodbye? Well I could tell you to wait till he’s sleeping and get a broomstick and beat the crap out him. That however can lead to assault charges and as I keep mentioning at Joyspirations we do not condone violence. Damaging his property could come back to bite you in the behind, cause you’ll have to pay to repair it.
Since he has all this time on his hands, obviously you do not live together.
With that said, sometimes it just a simple matter of saying goodbye and moving on. Change your locks and be strong, cause he will try to get you back.
Follow these simple steps and you too will attain happiness and clarity.
p.s. Just so I really understand. You actually thought he was playing you?
If it walks like a duck, quacks like a duck, guess what the odds are it’s not a turkey!
Thank you for selecting us as your emotional crisis advisor. We are here for you!
Madame Joy
Joyspirations© Daily Advice:
Too many coincidences? The universe is talking to you. Just clean those ears, you might actually hear what’s being said. #QTips Just saying!