Dear Madame Joy,

I have a problems with my friends. The seem to think it’s OK to just invite themselves to my home and I have a problem with that.
Last week I opened my door to find three of my friends with big smiles on their faces. Even though I was not too thrilled about it, I let them in.
needless to say I ended up playing host. I cooked a nice meal and hung out with my friends. In an effort to make things simple, I made it a serve yourself event. I set out the dishes and a couple of bottles and let them serve themselves. Madame Joy, my friends ate and drank EVERYTHING!!! My friends did not leave until 4 in the morning. I moved to the suburbs in an effort to get away from them but it seems that they followed me. Madame joy I think it’s very selfish and inconsiderate of my friends to just show up unannounced and stay until all the food and drink was gone. I am very upset about that fact that they ate and drank everything that was put out. This is not the first time they have done this since I moved and I am fed up. How do I get them to stop this behavior?

Dear Friendly visits,
Thank you!

This my dear this is a syndrome called Freeitis. If it’s free they will eat and they will drink. Why you vex with your friends? Is you who let them in and is you who cook for them and is you offer them the alcohol. If you offer people something, why the ass you getting vex because they take it. If you didn’t want them to eat then doh cook. You doh want them to drink yuh booze then doh put out the bottle. You just selfish. You give people something and then get vex because dey take it. Yuh cyah do dat! Yeah I said it. Is your fault. The only thing better that drinking your booze is drinking somebody else’s. Can I get an amen! Free!!!! On top of all ah that you have the nerve to say you fed up??? You yuhself say is not the first time they do it. So if is not the first time, why you expecting a different result. I done tell allyuh about Einstein’s theory of insanity. Look it up again eh!
I will give you one point though. It is selfish and inconsiderate of them to just show up. Actually no, I take it back, you set that up so. So no point fuh you!

Here’s what you need to do:
1) Obviously you created this type of relationship, so now you need to set boundaries. They need to know what is acceptable from what is not. You have to establish it for your home.

2) Tell them the next time they want to come hang out they have to at least let you know before just appearing. This ain’t no magic show!

3) The next time they show up unannounced (and we know they will). Doh open the door. Hopefully yuh car in the driveway so that they will know you home and jus doh answer the door.

4) Once they get the message about just showing up. Invite them over and tell them that the need to bring a bottle because you not providing none. An make sure you doh put out nothing eh. Watch how slow them suckers will drink that booze. Once is them buying it, it will last trust me.

5) Doh be chupid, what you feel because you move you won’t see them? All that mean is that it will take them a few more minutes to get there. You shoulda move out to the bush.

Follow these simple steps and you too will attain happiness and clarity.

p.s: You don’t really have a problem with it because you still invite them in. If you do then, do something about it.

Thank you for selecting us as your emotional crisis advisor. We are here for you!

Madame  Joy

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