Dear Vnilla Joy
My friend Destra and I have been friends since kindergarten. We have since graduated University and are both gainfully employed. The issue I have with Destra is that she’s always borrowing money from me.
She’s either waiting for a paycheck, just paid all her bills or didn’t have enough to cover her bills. Whenever we make plans to go out, she always asks me to spot her until the next paycheck.
That paycheck never materializes and she never repays me. Even worse a few times we’ve going out to dinner and after we’ve eaten, she’ll tell me that she does not have the money, then I am stuck with the bill.
This is now affecting my budget because I factor in the inevitable call for financial help, I will get from Destra.
Madame Joy, how do I let my friend know that what she’s doing is not OK and still save the friendship.
Dr Cassandra.
Dear Dr Cassandra,
Thank you!
Change your friend’s name, just call her Bab. Broke Ass Bitch! Bab is responsible for her own situation. She will never become responsible as long as you’re her walking bank machine.
Start with two letters. “N.O”. Say it with me “NNNNOOOOO!!!!”
Since you have obviously encouraged your friend in this ridiculous behavior by continually catering to her, you are the problem. That’s right, I said it!!
You need to sit her down and let her ass know that you are no longer her money tree. Do this during the week so she’ll have time to assimilate this new info.
We know she’s not going to believe you, so just to prove your point make plans to go out the dinner the following weekend. Enjoy your meal, get your drink on .
When the check comes, son’t look at those puss-in-boots eyes. Tell her you’ll be right back. Get up calmly from your chair, go to the cash and pay your bill. Do go back to the table right away.
Go to the washroom to freshen up. Come back to your table and simply ask her if she’s ready to go. Since you are obviously a wuss, DO NOT MAKE EYE CONTACT!!!
For the movies, make sure you go early so line up is not too bad. Take the longer line. Stay in line with her, talk about your day and all that.
You must time this perfectly, as you get to the front, make a mad dash to the to the other line to pay for your ticket. Once you’re done , simple join her and ask if she’s ready to go.
If after these subtle hints, she still does not get it. You need drop her broke ass and move on. There is no way to tell someone that they are a financial blood sucker.
Trust me they know and as long as you continue to feed them you will continue to experience financial anemia.
Follow these simple steps and you too will attain happiness and clarity.
p.s: I’ve heard of vampires but this kind of financial suckery benefits no one. Save the friendship??? Screw her, if she valued your friend ship she would not be putting you in that position at all!!!
p.s to the p.s. Who’s the fool? The fool or the fool that follows the fool?
Thank you for selecting us as your emotional crisis advisor. We are here for you!
Madame Joy
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