Foreword: Since it seems to be a particularly popular subject, I will make another attempt to get thru to you intelligent parents on the topic of cell phones. Again!!!
Dear Madame Joy,
I have a teenage daughter who keeps going over her monthly cell phone plan. Every month I have to pay at least $20 to $50 more because she just does not seem to get the concept or extra usage. Every time I talk to her about it, she swears that she won’t do it again. Then the next month it’s like déjà vu.
This has caused a lot of friction between us because when I yell at her for it, she just runs to her Dad and he gives her the extra money so that I can pay off the overage cost. This usually comes with the little comment about her Daddy paying for it, so I can’t say anything.
Madame Joy, I am trying to teach my daughter to be a bit more responsible but it just does not seem to be working. How do I get her to underhand that she need to be more responsible with her cell phone usage.
Cell-Me-Not
Dear Cell-Me-Not,
Thank You!
First: I’m sorry, “her cell phone”? The last time I checked, something is yours if you have paid for or are in the process of paying for it. she doh own nutin!
Next: In a family there is no his money and your money… if either of you spend it impacts the family, so that child and she father need a backhand. (But remember, we at JoySpiration, do not condone violence. Solve problems with words!)
Next again: I will allow your daughter the 1st month overage (let’s say it was new and she just got caught up). You know since I so fair and even tempered I will ever allow her the second month. After the third flipping month is either you lose a child or you lose a phone.
Since it appears that you are the one that takes on the job of paying the bills. Call the company and suspend that damn phone. Yes, you still have to pay for it but guess what? If she doh have it. It cyah cost you extra. You must be out of your mind, you have discussion with this child about paying extra every month for something that is a want not a need AND she still have the phone?
Understand? she doh need to understand nutin, is you that need to underhand that yuh chupid!!! Who is the one paying the overage? Oh oh , I know, YOU!!! Who is the one having this redundant conversation? You guessed it, YOU!!!
She get the concept just fine, the concept is “I can use my phone when I want, how I want and it will get paid and I will still get it use it.” Yeah me!
And on top of that, she telling you who money spending. Lord have mercy on my soul, I just see my mother face and imagine me saying something like that to her. Oh Laaaawwwddd! I dead.
To put is simply what she need is “Two snaps and a buss tail”!
As I am a fan of the season and I want everybody to be happy and I love to give gift ideas. Get her a lovely pay as you go phone. Wrap it up in a nice box and give it to her for Christmas.
p.s.: Your husband is a punk. He is gonna unleash another woman into this world that’s gonna just sit there and take, take, take but doh know how to anything thing in return. You need to leave his ass, oright maybe not leave him but slap him or something nah. Just for his chuppidity. Just saying!
Follow these simple steps and you too will attain happiness and clarity.
p.s. Just remember these will be the people that will take care of us when we old. You know that means that we all doomed!!! Just Saying
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Madame Joy
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