Dear Madame Joy,
I have this friend and for some reason she seems to think that I am living this life of luxury. I am always hearing about what I have and what my kids have from other people and every once in a while she will drop a comment aimed at me but she claims, she was joking. I am a single mother and I can guarantee that all these things I am supposed to have, I do not!
I have been holding my tongue because I don’t want any conflict but this has been going on for years and it is really beginning to bother me now. How do I get her to understand that it’s not all sunshine and roses in my home?
Rumors
Dear Rumors,
Thank You!
Why the hell you have to justify your life to this person? Jealousy is a four letter word. Yes it is, look it up!!!
The good thing? (Yes Tulip, is a question). It’s a new year and we could blame everything on it. Your “friend” is not your friend. It very obvious that you guys do not afford the same weight to this friendship. (I know, I sound speechified eh, afford!!!…nice). You need to lose some weight. (doh get on eh, I not saying yuh fat.) The weight you need to lose is that “friend”.
Is because you obviously doh complain. Is not her blasted business how you live and what you have. Why you have to go about spouting out your misery just so people can feel better about themselves? News flash!!! Most people doh care and actually find joy in knowing that you miserable.
As we get older we know who to tell her business too. The fact that she’s making these assumptions means that you don’t share with her. If you don’t share with her, then there is a reason. Think about it!!!
I had one a dem friends to eh. You doh like conflict… den just filter them out gradually. Do it so that they doh even know that you getting rid a them. If you avoid the phone calls they will keep calling, so answer a few times and say you have to go after a few minutes. Use the children as an excuse, we take care of them, so at some point we have to reap some benefit. The gradually you will just not be available. Oh you called me and left a message? Sorry, I didn’t check my messages. Oh really, I erased my messages by mistake. You want to come over, awww… I have to take Charlie to the Chocolate factory. Maybe next time, when Mary pops in!
You work for what you have, you don’t have to explain nutin to nobody. Let she go.
Follow these simple steps and you too will attain happiness and clarity.
p.s: I leave you with some lyrics from that awesomely awesome group “The Timex Social Club”. Read in spoken word by none other than Captain Kirk of the USS Enterprise:
You: How… do rumors get started?
Kirk: They’re started by the jealous people
Kirk: And they get mad seeing something
Kirk: They had and somebody else is holding
Just saying!
Madame Joy
Joyspirations© Daily Advice:
Look I write a song jus fuh you!
Let she go, let she go
doh hold it back no more
let she go, let she go
put she out and slam the door!!!